I recently watched the movie “Get Low” and enjoyed it very much. It is set in the 1930’s in a small southern town. Bill Murray, Robert Duvall, Sissy Spacek and Lucas Black are all wonderful. It is touching, sad, sweet, and thoughtful. It is about a hermit who has placed himself alone for many, many years out of grief, guilt and remorse. He decides to hold a funeral party for himself before he dies so that he and others can tell their stories about him. The movie touches on themes of redemption, unrequited love and reconciliation.
The movie led me to think about how we punish ourselves for so many years, and often many lifetimes, over things we feel badly about or think we should have done differently. Sometimes it is truly situations and events that we could have/should have handled differently, but at times it is just our miss-perceived guilt. Some religions teach there is a God that inflicts judgments upon us, but it seems to me that we inflict far worse judgments on ourselves. The truth is that usually, if we could have done things differently we would have, but depending upon our circumstances, our limited skills and or abilities at the time, we made the best choice we could have at the time.
In my life and my work as a alternative therapist, I have seen how this guilt, grief and judgment gets held in our bodies and often leads to accidents and illnesses. The energy it takes to hold such thoughts of others, and ourselves can become a prison just as this hermit chose his isolation as his prison. We experience wounding from another or ourselves and then spend the rest of our lives creating energetic “Band-Aids” to hold this memory inside. Pretty soon, all of our energy can be used up just to hold all of this down so we don’t have to face it or express it. No wonder so many people in our society end up on anti-depressants and chronic fatigue. Scientists have shown that we hold memories in the cells of our bodies, and it takes great energy to keep these memories contained.
Often we even forget about this stockpile of old memories and reactions but our bodies don’t forget. They create our present and future based on the past. Or if we do remember them, they gain so much power over us that they become the boogieman in the closet. So in my work and in my life, my strategy is to bring light and love to these old feelings and memories, to heal them, release them, set them and myself free.
Life is really meant for joy, giving and receiving love. We are truly meant to be free. Yet we have allowed ourselves to live in bondage for so long, and we keep others in bondage as well. All the great spiritual teachers have demonstrated that love and forgiveness is the answer.
So whether you have me assist you, use some of the meditations and techniques on my website, seek out other healers or techniques, I encourage you to take this journey of reconciliation and redemption. It certainly makes life more gentle and joyous!
Katelon T. Jeffereys Seattle Life Coach