We Create Our Own Reality….or….Do We?


movie projector                                                 Image from one of my corporate training manuals. Katelon T. Jeffereys

For much of my adult life I have believed that we create our reality. My son got tired of me stating it every time he would complain about his circumstances. I taught it in my corporate and public workshops. I discussed it in a radio interview. This image above is one I used to talk about how the movie of our life is made up of the beliefs we hold about our self and life and then, these are projected onto the screen of our life, attracting the situations, circumstances and people/players to fulfill our script.

This last year or so though, I’ve been changing my mind about this.  I still believe we have a part in creating our lives, or certainly how we respond to our lives and the relationships and circumstances in it but I believe the equation is more complicated than just this simple statement implies.

A friend asked me about me not believing anymore that we create our own reality, referencing a lovely post I reblogged recently https://empowerandbalance.wordpress.com/2015/02/09/remembering-infinity-the-performance-of-a-lifetime/  Although I did enjoy that blog post so much I wanted to share it, I still believe things are a little more complicated than this.

As I’ve deepened my work to oust the dark ruling elite, to transfer the power to the light and freedom to humanity, I’ve learned more about how the dark and their technologies has impacted each soul’s creation of the life he/she is incarnating into and the path it will take him/her on.  In my Spiritual Response therapy work I’ve trained in and used since August 1997, I work with Spirit and my high self guidance team to research a person’s akashic records to find limiting programs, beliefs, contracts etc. they have set up, and then clear them so it provides a person freedom to now have the life of their choice.  So that training and work confirmed my what I now believe to be a simplistic view that each soul, in conjunction with Spirit, did indeed create their reality. I still find that work useful and use it everyday for myself, others and the work I’m doing now to oust the dark, but my understanding has expanded.  In learning about how the dark not only influences a person’s choices and planning work in the Bardo, while planning their upcoming incarnation, and the veil that they set up there to keep most people from being aware of their direct connection to Source and their true identity as a divine being, but also about all the technologies not only placed in humans but also directed at them through the water, food, air and airwaves, it became clearer and clearer that we don’t have full control of our lives.

As souls, we not only are bringing forward erroneous beliefs we’ve gathered through other lifetimes, beliefs about ourselves, life, the world, and how we will be treated/should be treated; we are also bringing forth dark contracts we may have agreed to, technologies placed in us by the dark in other lifetimes, erroneous beliefs embedded by the dark into governments/religions/philosophies, etc.  Souls who have worked to bring forth the light in other lifetimes have been particularly attacked and targeted by the dark ruling forces, so their limitations both internally, such as technologies and curses received, but also “choices” presented during the Bardo planning are especially limiting. And then, once they incarnate in this life, since the dark knows they will be losing their power, they have attacked the lightworkers even more, even using relationships and situations to attempt to stop the lightworkers’ efforts and outcomes and even at times, attempting to stop their lives.

I also feel that to state “You create your own reality” leaves out other people you are interacting with personally as well as all of humanity who is co-creating a situation.  I used to have friends, a couple, who were very much involved with the Course of Miracles. Although I had personally talked with Jesus, at age nine, and love him, this particular course material has never attracted me.  It did seem to attract quite a few people in my life though.  The husband in this couple continually had affairs out of the marriage.  The wife’s excuses for him were something to the effect of there was something wrong with her, something SHE was doing, to attract this behavior in him, giving him no reason to be accountable, no reason for him to take responsibility for his actions. Now granted, this willingness of hers to accept the full responsibility, and not hold him accountable certainly supports him not doing so, but to say it is ALL about her, is just ludicrous in my mind.  I had another friend who treated me so horribly that even her friends would shake their heads about how she treated me.  At one point, she actually said “I wonder what it is about YOU that makes me treat you so horribly?”  I had pretty much walked away from the friendship at that point, knowing I was worth more than how she was treating me.  Granted, I had much to heal at that point around my self esteem and self worth, but again, to take on that I was the cause of her acting so horribly, would have been inaccurate and not held her accountable for learning to be more kind to others and more honest about what was really going on within her.  In both cases, it seems to me that by excusing bad behavior, the people acting that way…the husband, and my ex-friend, it leads them to lose a chance for self growth and healing of their broken parts.

Also, because in all situations, whether it is something going on within us..our health or lack of it, emotional disturbances, relationships, or more community or world-wide situations, there are others involved…other factors (dark technologies, poisoned food and water, poisoned cultural and religious beliefs, etc.) and/or other people, and they, too, are busy “creating” with all that is within them and around them.

Perhaps once the shift happens, the light is in power, the veil is gone, the technologies are gone, we are consciously and fully connected to Source and our divinity, and manifesting everything we need (food, water, turquoise converse high tops …) out of thin air, perhaps then we will truly be creating our reality.  But even then, there will still be others involved in that equation, whether it is an intimate relationship or a world or a universe.

So…these are just my thoughts on this topic for now.

I still believe there is value in the understanding behind the above image though, as no matter what/who is creating my present reality, the more I heal and create more supportive beliefs and ways of viewing myself and my world, I certainly have much more of a chance of experiencing the kind of health, relationships, life and world that I desire, than if I continue to operate from a very limited script and back brain file of old reactions 🙂

So here’s to the light finally coming into Full Power, us being completely conscious of our divinity and power and all of us co-creating an amazing life for ourselves and an amazing world!  Time for rebirth!!!!


About katelon

I had been a wellness trainer, therapist, consultant and coach for 40 years, trained in 16 therapies from massage and reflexology to hypnotherapy and NLP, to past life regression and various spiritual therapies. I did my work in person and long distance. I also offered workshops to companies in wellness, stress release, diversity, team building, communication and more. My deepest dream is to create wellness centers all over the world, for not only individual wellness but environmental, family, business, community, and international wellness, along with connecting us with other light citizens of the Universe. I envision a world of peace, harmony and cooperation. I am available as a consultant to work with the creation of wellness centers and eco-villages and often refer others to various wellness centers and resorts in the area of their preference. My present focus is on daily sessions, with a work partner, to shut down the dark control structure and timeline and help usher in a new timeline of Oneness, abundance, peace, and a world that supports the greater good for all, including the planet. It is time to be free of the enslavement and war against this planet and humanity.

14 responses »

  1. It is certainly a complicated time we are living in with so much transition. I especially liked your second to last paragraph, because that is what we really do have control of in the now. It seems like more happiness is available living in that reference, Great thoughts. Thanks!

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    • I’m glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for commenting. I just have felt for awhile like I needed to put out my thoughts on it as to me, just telling someone, well, tough shit, you create your own reality, where there is so much more involved isn’t fair nor is it honoring all else that is involved. I’ve seen way too many people use this belief in a detrimental way.


  2. Hallelujah! Bless you for putting reality creation into perspective. We are not allowed by this matrix to truly create our own reality, otherwise Ghandi and many other great souls would have created peace on earth by now.

    Part of the problem is that we are so brainwashed by all the manipulations that we cannot see our way past it. No one deserves to be treated badly, or abused or enslaved – no matter what they did in other lifetimes.

    And, if you do wake up enough to become quietly of the world but not participating in it any more than necessary, the etheric minions attack you through other unawakened people.

    And I am tired of being guilt tripped because we haven’t all come together to change the world over night. Most people would do so if they just had enough honest information to make an informed decision.

    But, that’s not allowed, you have to depend on nudges from your higher self or your angels, or you have to know how to read the signs or tea leaves or whatever because direct information about what would set us free is suppressed because it threatens those who have been using us as lab rats for millions of years.

    Frankly, I am stretched way past my due date and I think the cabal has had enough second, third, fourth, and on, and on, chances to wake up while the meek of the earth suffer. I wish them no harm, I just want them out of the way.

    Thanks for all you are doing, much appreciated.

    May The Blessings Be…

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  3. This is certainly a landmark piece! It has put to rest the total frustration of trying to put “The Secret” into effect. It has opened the arena to the expression of more of the truth around the simplistic catch phrase, “You create your own reality.” It is crystal clear to me now that the Truth around this axiom is an unequivocal Yes AND No. Thank you Katelon for having the sense to hold to the original principle yet also put focus on some additional facets of this prism of creativity. (As an aside, the word prism sounds like prison; thus I would like to add even more light to the eradication of the prison of our creativity).


    • Thanks Barbara! I’m glad it was helpful for you. I feel that the movie “The Secret” helped put forth the law of attraction, which is helpful in “some” ways and yet, I also feel it added to much confusion and frustration for many people.


  4. Katelon, this is a powerful post, the subject of which has been on my mind of late. Isn’t that something? Life with all its twists and turns has me now convinced, that it is what we do and how we act towards and within those circumstances, that can either slow our growth down, or give us more growth. Yes we have free will, yet could it not be possible that we actually designed our own Life according to what is required for our own growth, like a blueprint, stamped and approved? I really enjoyed your thoughts here, my friend. It is time we walk away from the mindset “we create our reality” to “we grow from our reality”. Bless you for this incredible post! Love, Amy

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    • Thanks Amy! Glad you liked it. I’ve learned so much since I started doing this intense direct work with John, to finish ousting the dark’s control on this planet and within humanity. So yes, as I wrote…our part we can play right now is how we respond and grow from what is happening in our bodies and lives. But soon…that will shift as the dark technologies are removed from within humanity and shut down around the planet, the veil and quarantine lifted and humans reconnected with Source consciously. Then…”you create your own reality” will take on a whole new amazing flavor.

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  5. Thank you for this post. It has a great deal of meaning to me, and I have been thinking along these lines for a while. I also “want” the turquoise high tops…have been doing an online search to see if anyone discounts them…NOT yet !!!


  6. Reblogged this on Empower and Balance and commented:

    FB is good for at least reminding me of past posts that I value 🙂

    This came up in my memories today. I feel even more strongly now about what I shared in this post. And just to clarify – in re-reading the post, I reference a couple I was friends with who were into the Course of Miracles, and meant to write that I seem to have attracted many friends who also were dedicated to that course, even though it has never drawn me to it myself.

    When John, (my spiritual work partner), first connected with me, he felt that my financial struggles, health issues, etc. were all due to me not changing my attitudes, beliefs etc. At the point he met me, I had already spent decades trying every emotional, psychological, mental, physical, spiritual, energetic modality and technique that I could find, to heal myself and my life. My long time therapist and friend told me I had worked harder on myself than any client she’d ever had and made more progress. But still issues continued. The more John and I worked together, we found more and more interference, blocks, and attacks by the dark that had been going on since my conception. And the almost daily attacks (sometimes more than one a day), have continued throughout this 7 + years work we’ve been focused on to end the dark’s power and their timeline and weaponry. We’ve learned about illegal parts created by the dark, soul-less beings that imitate a human and carry out dark agendas: parts that the dark attaches to souls without their knowledge. Our understanding of how the dark interferes with and misleads humans has grown exponentially over the years. And this doesn’t even include all the propaganda the dark spreads in many aspects of life.

    I can now feel this interference when it happens, in my energy field around me, as if someone has laid a cloak over me, and sometimes it feels like static.

    So I still believe that it is important for us to do our inner work, be accountable, make changes as needed, but I also see that once the dark is shut down and our body/being is restored to its full divine capacity and connection and we are living on the light timeline, living the way we were originally designed to live, with all dark interference gone, all lies disclosed, etc then our capacity to create the reality we desire will truly be restored as well.

    May the light timeline soon be restored. May we soon be living in peace, Oneness, abundance, truth and serving the greater good.

    Thanks for reading!

    Much love, katelon


  7. We Create Our Own Reality…..or…..Do We? — Yes; I was a bit shocked upon first realizing how much is already determined right at the moment of our birth. – Starting with our individual Soul; carrying unfinished business (karma) from previous incarnations. – And then our individual Starsign; including dominating planets and constellations; determining our basic personality and lifepath. – And then our individual Family-genes; including upbringing and environment. – And then our individual Bloodtype; determining whether we are typically hunters or farmers or travellers, including individual health risks that we are exposed to, and even determining what food is good for us or not. – And then our individual Myers-Briggs Type Indicator; which can easily define any and each individual of the entire humanity into a four-letter-abbreviation! – And then our individual ever changing Biorhythms; making each day’s base terms different than the one before. – And then on top of all that we have the notorious Team Dark; hellbent on making our lives miserable in any possible way; even without realizing that the timelines are all now shifting into the light, and that Team Dark must all now peacefully go into their exile, thank you very much! Phew! — So with all of these pre-determined conditions; – is all what is left for us individually maybe just our free will?; along with our concious attitude perhaps? – Just a thought. — Thanks again Katelon (and John), much continued support and love to you and to Everyone; stay safe now. — P.S.: Synchronistically; this quote just popped out of nowhere today : «To create your own reality; you need to know what reality you desire. To do that; you need to know how to align with the frequency of the reality you desire.»

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    • Yes, Finn, and some of the things you mention aren’t really real but propaganda and lies and distortions put forth by the Dark who have infiltrated and distorted many of the so called “new Age” beliefs along with all systems and religions, those channeling the info in the first place. I’m waiting for the light timeline to see what sifts out as truth and what was lies from the beginning.

      As a corporate trainer I rejected the MB typing and all typing as yes, it is a blueprint but it isn’t set in stone and we each react and act at each moment and have some choices in each moment, when we make conscious choices, see our patterns and choose to continue those patterns or shift them. In spite of all I was born with via family, past lives, dark interference, I have shifted tremendously due to my dedication to healing and change. We each have that ability if we choose to take the effort and awareness to do so.

      Take care!


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