I recently watched the movie “Get Low” and enjoyed it very much. It is set in the 1930’s in a small southern town. Bill Murray, Robert Duvall, Sissy Spacek and Lucas Black are all wonderful. It is touching, sad, sweet, and thoughtful. It is about a hermit who has placed himself alone for many, many years out of grief, guilt and remorse. He decides to hold a funeral party for himself before he dies so that he and others can tell their stories about him. The movie touches on themes of redemption, unrequited love and reconciliation.
The movie led me to think about how we punish ourselves for so many years, and often many lifetimes, over things we feel badly about or think we should have done differently. Sometimes it is truly situations and events that we could have/should have handled differently, but at times it is just our miss-perceived guilt. Some religions teach there is a God that inflicts judgments upon us, but it seems to me that we inflict far worse judgments on ourselves. The truth is that usually, if we could have done things differently we would have, but depending upon our circumstances, our limited skills and or abilities at the time, we made the best choice we could have at the time.
In my life and my work as a alternative therapist, I have seen how this guilt, grief and judgment gets held in our bodies and often leads to accidents and illnesses. The energy it takes to hold such thoughts of others, and ourselves can become a prison just as this hermit chose his isolation as his prison. We experience wounding from another or ourselves and then spend the rest of our lives creating energetic “Band-Aids” to hold this memory inside. Pretty soon, all of our energy can be used up just to hold all of this down so we don’t have to face it or express it. No wonder so many people in our society end up on anti-depressants and chronic fatigue. Scientists have shown that we hold memories in the cells of our bodies, and it takes great energy to keep these memories contained.
Often we even forget about this stockpile of old memories and reactions but our bodies don’t forget. They create our present and future based on the past. Or if we do remember them, they gain so much power over us that they become the boogieman in the closet. So in my work and in my life, my strategy is to bring light and love to these old feelings and memories, to heal them, release them, set them and myself free.
Life is really meant for joy, giving and receiving love. We are truly meant to be free. Yet we have allowed ourselves to live in bondage for so long, and we keep others in bondage as well. All the great spiritual teachers have demonstrated that love and forgiveness is the answer.
So whether you have me assist you, use some of the meditations and techniques on my website, seek out other healers or techniques, I encourage you to take this journey of reconciliation and redemption. It certainly makes life more gentle and joyous!
Katelon T. Jeffereys Seattle Life Coach
The movie “Central Station” is at times touching, heartbreaking, funny, warm and tragic. It is from the late 90″s, but I was recently led to re-watch it and am glad that I did.
It is the story of a woman who has closed her heart, is just surviving by collecting money from the poor and illiterate customers she has, by writing letters for them and then not sending them. Whether she sends the letters or not, she is there as a witness to their joys and sorrows, and yet has lost her sense of humanity that would lead her to follow through and send these letters on.
One of her customers is a young woman who is sending a letter to the Father of her son, as her son looks on. She gets killed and the boy seeks the letter writer out, so that he can go find his father. The young boy has also hardened his heart in his grief and destitution.
They journey together to find this father, sometimes as enemies and distrusting each other and it is this physical and emotional journey that is at the heart of this movie, and it’s beauty.
Watching this movie led me to look at past choices I have made, ways I have closed my heart due to circumstances and events that have taken place. At times the woman character seems to lack any reason for us to sympathize with her or expect redemption. And yet, the movie shows that we all have those loving places within us, there is room for redemption in all of us.
At this time on the planet we are being called to open our hearts even more. I have been a long time activist so it is easy to blame a corporation, a government, a corrupt leader, and act for change. And I still feel this is valid work, and yet, as a person long schooled in metaphysics and the law of attraction, I understand that this “outer” only reflects me as well, places within me that are carrying limiting beliefs, thus needing to act out in certain ways. I truly believe that as I change myself, it also changes what takes place in the world.
So I am led to look at what places within me have I been unwilling to have sympathy for, and see as unworthy of redemption? What happened in those events and circumstances past to close my heart in places? And what will it take to love those places open and allow redemption to flow in? What will it take to soften these hard places of fear, distrust, pain and sorrow?
I feel so much loving energy filling the planet now as we are given these resources to love ourselves free, love the world free, even allowing this energy and love to flow into our darkest places…. internally and externally. Can we love the dark within us? Can we see those parts of us as just the scared, misinformed parts they became and bring them to us to love and comfort as we would a small child?
I feel that this is our deepest work now, to allow our hearts to be opened, embraced, accepted and loved, and then allowing that love to flow out to the world, to the things and people we agree with and to the things and people we do not.
Are you ready? Are you willing? If so, say, “YES” and feel and notice the love flowing in and setting you free!!!!
Your contribution to yourself and the world is greatly appreciated and I witness your gift now!!!
And while you are at it, check out the movie! The main actress received an Oscar nomination for best actress and the young boy actor is amazing!
Katelon T. Jeffereys