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We Create Our Own Reality….or….Do We?

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movie projector                                                 Image from one of my corporate training manuals. Katelon T. Jeffereys

For much of my adult life I have believed that we create our reality. My son got tired of me stating it every time he would complain about his circumstances. I taught it in my corporate and public workshops. I discussed it in a radio interview. This image above is one I used to talk about how the movie of our life is made up of the beliefs we hold about our self and life and then, these are projected onto the screen of our life, attracting the situations, circumstances and people/players to fulfill our script.

This last year or so though, I’ve been changing my mind about this.  I still believe we have a part in creating our lives, or certainly how we respond to our lives and the relationships and circumstances in it but I believe the equation is more complicated than just this simple statement implies.

A friend asked me about me not believing anymore that we create our own reality, referencing a lovely post I reblogged recently https://empowerandbalance.wordpress.com/2015/02/09/remembering-infinity-the-performance-of-a-lifetime/  Although I did enjoy that blog post so much I wanted to share it, I still believe things are a little more complicated than this.

As I’ve deepened my work to oust the dark ruling elite, to transfer the power to the light and freedom to humanity, I’ve learned more about how the dark and their technologies has impacted each soul’s creation of the life he/she is incarnating into and the path it will take him/her on.  In my Spiritual Response therapy work I’ve trained in and used since August 1997, I work with Spirit and my high self guidance team to research a person’s akashic records to find limiting programs, beliefs, contracts etc. they have set up, and then clear them so it provides a person freedom to now have the life of their choice.  So that training and work confirmed my what I now believe to be a simplistic view that each soul, in conjunction with Spirit, did indeed create their reality. I still find that work useful and use it everyday for myself, others and the work I’m doing now to oust the dark, but my understanding has expanded.  In learning about how the dark not only influences a person’s choices and planning work in the Bardo, while planning their upcoming incarnation, and the veil that they set up there to keep most people from being aware of their direct connection to Source and their true identity as a divine being, but also about all the technologies not only placed in humans but also directed at them through the water, food, air and airwaves, it became clearer and clearer that we don’t have full control of our lives.

As souls, we not only are bringing forward erroneous beliefs we’ve gathered through other lifetimes, beliefs about ourselves, life, the world, and how we will be treated/should be treated; we are also bringing forth dark contracts we may have agreed to, technologies placed in us by the dark in other lifetimes, erroneous beliefs embedded by the dark into governments/religions/philosophies, etc.  Souls who have worked to bring forth the light in other lifetimes have been particularly attacked and targeted by the dark ruling forces, so their limitations both internally, such as technologies and curses received, but also “choices” presented during the Bardo planning are especially limiting. And then, once they incarnate in this life, since the dark knows they will be losing their power, they have attacked the lightworkers even more, even using relationships and situations to attempt to stop the lightworkers’ efforts and outcomes and even at times, attempting to stop their lives.

I also feel that to state “You create your own reality” leaves out other people you are interacting with personally as well as all of humanity who is co-creating a situation.  I used to have friends, a couple, who were very much involved with the Course of Miracles. Although I had personally talked with Jesus, at age nine, and love him, this particular course material has never attracted me.  It did seem to attract quite a few people in my life though.  The husband in this couple continually had affairs out of the marriage.  The wife’s excuses for him were something to the effect of there was something wrong with her, something SHE was doing, to attract this behavior in him, giving him no reason to be accountable, no reason for him to take responsibility for his actions. Now granted, this willingness of hers to accept the full responsibility, and not hold him accountable certainly supports him not doing so, but to say it is ALL about her, is just ludicrous in my mind.  I had another friend who treated me so horribly that even her friends would shake their heads about how she treated me.  At one point, she actually said “I wonder what it is about YOU that makes me treat you so horribly?”  I had pretty much walked away from the friendship at that point, knowing I was worth more than how she was treating me.  Granted, I had much to heal at that point around my self esteem and self worth, but again, to take on that I was the cause of her acting so horribly, would have been inaccurate and not held her accountable for learning to be more kind to others and more honest about what was really going on within her.  In both cases, it seems to me that by excusing bad behavior, the people acting that way…the husband, and my ex-friend, it leads them to lose a chance for self growth and healing of their broken parts.

Also, because in all situations, whether it is something going on within us..our health or lack of it, emotional disturbances, relationships, or more community or world-wide situations, there are others involved…other factors (dark technologies, poisoned food and water, poisoned cultural and religious beliefs, etc.) and/or other people, and they, too, are busy “creating” with all that is within them and around them.

Perhaps once the shift happens, the light is in power, the veil is gone, the technologies are gone, we are consciously and fully connected to Source and our divinity, and manifesting everything we need (food, water, turquoise converse high tops …) out of thin air, perhaps then we will truly be creating our reality.  But even then, there will still be others involved in that equation, whether it is an intimate relationship or a world or a universe.

So…these are just my thoughts on this topic for now.

I still believe there is value in the understanding behind the above image though, as no matter what/who is creating my present reality, the more I heal and create more supportive beliefs and ways of viewing myself and my world, I certainly have much more of a chance of experiencing the kind of health, relationships, life and world that I desire, than if I continue to operate from a very limited script and back brain file of old reactions 🙂

So here’s to the light finally coming into Full Power, us being completely conscious of our divinity and power and all of us co-creating an amazing life for ourselves and an amazing world!  Time for rebirth!!!!

 

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John Denver Looking for Space – YouTube

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John Denver Looking for Space – YouTube.

I love this song and hadn’t heard it before. It seems to describe my path of my life, since early childhood. I saw so much beauty around me in the desert and mountains but also in my memories of past lives, the other dimensions I walked into, the music that filled my dreams all night, and the spirits I communicated with and yet I was told only the mountains and deserts were real.

I looked around me at the jealousy, dysfunction, and pain that wove itself throughout the good parts of my family, extended family and town, and wondered why we would choose to live this way. From early on I went looking for answers, leaving my parent’s church at age 8, traveling through other churches in town, and other spiritual paths from there. I spent years focusing on personal growth and healing and still do.

This focus became my path and my life, looking for truth, and yet also looking for my place in it. I’ve never felt particularly at home anywhere, except for the Navajo land where I briefly lived in the early 80’s. The community wasn’t welcoming but I remembered the land from other times. Otherwise I have mostly felt like a stranger in a strange land, trying to get back to or forward to that land, that home, the place within and without that I briefly was cocooned in during my early childhood moments.

Those moments were suspended a midst severe asthma attacks and hospital stays, family strife, and school yard rejection, but they were my heaven and it was real. And I know it will be real again and that it is THAT, that I have been attempting to help others find through my work with individuals and it is my work to share it with the world.

I truly believe that place of living in our truth, living in love, and living in our power as creators is where we are headed. We are on the cusp of stepping into the light, our light, the light of Spirit, the light of this world, releasing all the darkness so we all can shine.

Care to join me?

Storms Of Our Lives

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April 2012 Lincoln park storm

I grew up with severe asthma, died a couple times, spent alot of my life in hospitals and emergency rooms up until I was 40. I also had several injuries, including falling through a hole in a floor in a store (sounds like a sitcom doesn’t it?) in 1971. For some years I cursed these inflictions but as the years went on, I learned to see them as gifts.

Doctors told my parents I wouldn’t leave to be 30 years old. My brother had already died at age 21 when he went into a hospital with asthma and the doctor gave him too much medication, thus killing him. So at age 22 I started studying TM meditation, the next year studied Silva Mind control and the next year started studying homeopathy, herbs, and other alternative health topics. In 1978 I was led to a reflexologist who finally took the pain away from my fall in 71, and it also helped my lungs, so I decided to learn it. Thus began my 34+ year career in holistic therapies.

Throughout my life as I searched for ways to heal myself or at least help relieve some of my symptoms, mental, emotional and physical, when I’d find therapies that were useful, I would learn them and add them to my tool box in my career. So I feel that my health challenges have led me to my career and also my destiny.

Most people with lungs like mine are in bed, or they stay home and do very little. I go for 5 mile hikes, sometimes every day. I know that all these techniques I have learned and my spiritual focus have been responsible for this. These health challenges have taught me patience, empathy, compassion, understanding, peace in the midst of struggle, and strength I never knew I had.

It is easy when storms arrive in our lives, whatever their form, to attempt to flee, struggle, or feel defeated. But I have found in my own life and the lives of many of my clients that these storms are often the impetus for change, opportunities for growth, wake up calls or the signpost to another path.

I have learned to love these parts of me, not to stay attached to the ailments but to be able to love the parts of me that chose this path of learning, seeing how it has served me, so when the time comes for my body to release them completely, the process will be a gentle exhale instead of a wrestling match.

Photo by Katelon Jeffereys. Storm from Lincoln Park, Seattle, WA

Giving Thanks For A Body!

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A long time friend contacted my yesterday to see if she could offer me some work from the healing work she is learning this weekend. So we did a session via skype. I could feel the work happening in my body and also had a profound shift in my understanding.

I grew up very severely ill and when I wasn’t ill I was very active, climbing everything I could find and taking part in other physical activities. I also sang and studied piano. So I was used to using my body but I don’t feel that I spent much time truly being “in” my body. Perhaps it was from being ill that I felt my body had betrayed me, I don’t know. And although I loved the beauty of this earth, I just never felt a sense of belonging here. My spiritual and psychic experiences weren’t received well by my parents and doctors tried to convince them I was crazy. It was confusing to me because what I saw with my spiritual sight made much more sense to me than the struggles and negativity that much of the world lived within.

I have used “grounding” and other spiritual visualizations and techniques to help myself inhabit my body more, and have certainly made great gains through this, but still don’t feel like I ever truly felt at home in my body. I grew up restless, too, which I partly feel is my true nature, but in other ways, I feel like this has been behind much of my moving.

Several years ago I took a Hooponopono workshop and Len, the leader, suggested that we thank everything…the chair we are sitting on, the shower stall we are standing in, the air, the water, our food, etc. I started the habit of doing this everyday to all the parts of my lodging, my walks, my car…all of it. But I never thought to thank my body, until today.

In the midst of an “activation” that my friend was administering, I had this strong tingling feeling in my legs and feet, and then this understanding that I needed to start honoring my body and thanking it for housing my soul. Later, my friend and I discussed how this honoring would perhaps lead to me not only feeling at home in my body, but me feeling a deeper sense of being home, belonging here. So we are both curious to see how this will shift other areas of my body and life.

Thank you beautiful body for your strength, amazing cooperation and team work that keeps me healthy, my food digested, my body oxygenated, and allows me to see/smell/touch/taste/hear this beautiful planet and all the creatures on it. Thank you wonderful body for allowing me to have a vehicle to use to share my gifts with the world and providing me a profession. Thank you my delightful body for allowing me to experience the joy of this planet and the bounty of Spirit.

Learning to Love Ourselves, Some Techniques!

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about love…loving myself, loving others, loving the world, loving what IS right now…on and on.  I’ve been out of a relationship a long time, healing myself so that I could finally have a healthy, supportive relationship, SO that I could finally BE that healthy person in a loving relationship.  I’ve been focused on this healing not just for a romantic partner relationship, but also for a loving family relationship, my work, and my true purpose this lifetime and for the world.

 I’ve come to believe that this is the ONLY true work of our lifetime…learning to love ourselves, relaxing enough to let go of all the “stuff” that we erroneously believe about ourselves that we’ve carried forth from other lifetimes, been programmed with from childhood and society, this belief that we are separate from our divinity.  If there is an original sin, I believe this is the apple we ate…this belief that we are anything other than divine and perfect.

            I went to an NLP meet up yesterday and the guest speaker was Jack Elias, a local hypnotherapist/NLP master and teacher. He did some funny impersonations of how we catch a negative thought, latch onto it, and then use it to beat ourselves up with it.  He pointed out how it is Nazi thinking in how what we do to ourselves is so horrific.

            I have seen this in my son, my family, my friends, my clients, and myself.  It affects our physical health, our relationships, our finances, and how we treat others as well.  That is why I have written so much about healing ourselves and coming to peace within us, how that then creates a positive affect on the world and helps contribute to a more peaceful, loving world.

            I’m sure you have experienced walking into a room where people have been angry or arguing with another. The negative energy is palpable.  Since those emotions create chemical reactions in our body, you can understand how this affects our physical well-being.  Masaru Emoto has demonstrated this with his water experiments, how thoughts change the form of the water crystals.  Since a large percentage of our body is water, these negative thoughts directly affect our body.  And like attracts like, so the more we focus on these negative thoughts and emotions, it seems like more show up to join the dance.

 Here are a few techniques you can use to assist you in more deeply loving yourself and clearing the negative self-talk:

 1.  Yesterday, Jack Elias suggested you could just dance with it.  Low self-esteem?  Dance the low self-esteem dance…. dance free form, or waltz, or whatever, as you announce here you are feeling low self-esteem…. or whatever thought/feeling is up for you.  Pay attention to what else shows up. Old memories that hold that emotion or belief for you, other beliefs that have supported that emotion, …whatever it is, just be inquisitive. This is an opportunity for healing and for releasing these negative emotions in a playful way.

 2.  Louise Hays suggests using affirmations and mirror work.  I feel that affirmations can be powerful, if you pay attention to the “yeah buts” that often show up as you are saying the affirmations.  Your conscious mind will be stating the affirmation “I deeply love myself” and your subconscious might spit up “oh yeah, that’s a crock of #! *+!”, or stuff you heard from your Mom, Dad, school mates….So pay attention to those, thank them for showing up, love them, too, and keep going. For mirror work, you can look into a mirror and state “I love you” “I appreciate you”, you can bow and say “Namaste” the God within me recognizes the God within you.   You can use whatever phrases you need to hear.  Your childhood is over, your past lives are over, (although really, the only time is now…. smile) so NOW is the time to be the loving parent to that wounded you and tell yourself all those things you needed to hear, are still needing to hear, and allow yourself to move to that place of owning self-love.

 3. EFT, emotional freedom technique, is a great tool for shifting the negative self-talk and getting to more self-love.  There are places you tap on acupuncture meridian points that physically free up energy that has been held stuck there due to trauma, stress and holding patterns.  EFT starts with a set up phrase that accepts and loves where you are right now….”Even though I am beating myself up right now, I deeply and completely love and accept myself” and you can add…”And I am willing to be open to learning to love myself now”.  That phrase is done while taking the little finger side of one hand and using a “karate chop” motion on the little finger side of the other hand.  You state it three times. Then you move on to the various acupuncture points on your body and head, tapping and stating what seems to be real right now….”beating myself up, feeling like crap, no one loves me, I don’t even love me”, just allowing yourself to be with what you are feeling and thinking right now and then you can move to more positive statements “well, there is that one friend that loves me, sometimes I love myself, what would it be like if I could really love myself?, I like that feeling, “…on and on, until you feel a shift. Then breathe deeply.  Other thoughts, emotions and beliefs might come up and then you can tap on them.

 4.  David Spangler talked of a wonderful practice of bringing “you” out to sit in front of you.  Then think of something or someone you feel love and appreciation for and fill yourself up with that.  Then you can pour that love and appreciation into that “you” in front of you, until that “you” is filled up and overflowing. Then you can bring that “you” back into your body and feel the difference.  This is a very gentle practice and very powerful.

 5.  You can sit in what is called a whole brain posture, a variation of the “cook’s hook up” energy medicine posture.  You cross your right ankle over your left, sitting or laying down, and then cross your left wrist over your right wrist, turn your hands so they face each other and clasp your hands together.  You can start with a release statement, thinking to yourself whatever negative emotion is running for you at the moment, “I’m now releasing all worry, fear and self-judgment”. Keep saying it to yourself as you breathe and hold this posture. Then when it feels like you are finished, unclasp your hands and uncross your ankles.  Place your fingertips together like you are holding a ball, and breathe.  This brings both hemispheres of the brain together to support this belief and release the negative.  You can then do the exercise again and use a positive statement ” I now deeply appreciate myself just as I am”, same posture, and same two steps. Psych-K and other energy techniques use this hold.

 If you want more information about any of these techniques, there is more information about these people and techniques on the Internet. I have simply been paraphrasing their techniques.  Also, I have several meditations and techniques on my website for free.  If you have any questions or would like some help, I would love to assist you in clearing anything limiting you from truly seeing what a beautiful and blessed being you are and all that you bring to the world. This has been my work for over 30 years and I am trained in and have studied many therapies and techniques. It is an honor to serve you in this way.

 Let’s fill up this world with love, person by person until we have claimed the truth of heaven on earth!

 Katelon T. Jeffereys

Seattle Life Coach

 www.empowerandbalance.com

Photo by Nancy Merryl