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My Wish for You, My Single Friend…

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Ok…this is better! I wanted to share this post as I related to it so much, not only for single people but ALL people. Learning to truly love and honor ourselves is perhaps the deepest lesson of being human, and I feel is important for all relationships.

I’m looking forward to the shifts coming to this planet that will have each of us owning and knowing our inherent beauty, worth, deservingness of love and respect. From this knowing, it will flow out to honoring all others and the planet and finally bring peace and cooperation across the world.

Midlife Moments

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I have a friend who is newly single. I watched as she navigated her break-up with her significant other. I supported her as she went through the initial stages of grief .. anger .. bargaining .. denial … depression … acceptance. I let her talk … and cry .. and vent … and held her in my heart as the fear … that fathomless fear …. of being alone crashed into her world. She is through the worst of the initial stuff and is settling into her single life. I, as a single woman and a writer, seem to her like a guide that can help her to step into being single and have a full life regardless of whether or not that space in her bed is ever filled again. My friend, I may seem like a guide that does it with grace, but know that everything you feel…

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Your value is the product of your thoughts…

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In our society, reclaiming our self value can be a long journey. Some cultures and families fully support their children and each other in a way that bolsters self esteem, self worth, self love and self value but many don’t at all.

With how our world has been run by the dark elite for so long, institutions, governments, and religions, were designed to keep people down, feeling devalued and lacking so they could be controlled. So this has been pervasive in our world.

I grew up with two critical parents, school mates that rejected me and devalued me, and that became my norm. In my lifelong quest to heal asthma, I realized how much of the time I held my breath so as not to wheeze, and tried to be as small as possible, take up as little room as I could, so as not to attract any more negative attention. When I did attempt to shine my light it was deemed too bright, so I kept that hidden as well.

My healing process has taken a long time and I’m so grateful for the various healers who helped me and the many techniques I learned to assist myself. This journey to self love and self valuing isn’t an easy quest, but oh so worth it.

The truth of who we are is divine co-creators with Spirit/source. Anything less than that is a lie. We were meant to shine bright and shine BIG! Love is who we are and to keep that covered not only hurts the world but it also hurts ourselves.

The time of the planet is one where we are all being called to reclaim this divinity, this light, this love and fill ourselves up, letting it seep out to the world. Imagine a world with all of us shining bright! Then together we can create a planet of peace, abundance, joy, wholeness.

You are a very valuable part of this creation. I honor you. Shine on dear one, shine on!!!!!

Otrazhenie

From http://www.santabanta.com

Have a wonderful week 🙂 

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Staying True In The Midst Of Other’s Perceptions!

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Throughout this almost year long journey I have been mostly staying in other people’s homes. Stepping into someone else’s home involves stepping into different house rules, perceptions, beliefs, needs, expectations and many of these are not overtly expressed. Some of the places I have stayed I have arranged through bartering my healing therapies, dog walking, cleaning, cooking, and organizing. among other skills. I’m not the best negotiator, as my nature is giving and generous, but my communication is clear, so I have done what I could to clearly and cleanly negotiate an arrangement that honored me as well as the other person. What I often found though, is that although I often give much more than is agreed upon, the other person would often change the agreement mid-stream, demanding more or even turning it around to make it appear that I hadn’t given enough?! This was always a shocking experience to me as I thought all had been clear in the beginning and as I stated, I always made sure I gave more than I had agreed upon.

I have always been a flexible, adaptable person, pretty easy going, and focused on being aware of others’ needs so as to keep things going smoothly. This journey though has led me into homes of hosts with almost OCD demands and house rules that even the most astute and dedicated house guest could not begin to adhere to or even decipher; homes of hosts living in their own words “just this side of disgusting” as far as cleanliness; homes of hosts that were controlling, raging alcoholics, noisy, quiet, outgoing, reclusive, vegetarians, meat eaters, and everything in between. Navigating all of these varied situations in addition to the different climates and cities to smaller towns has been quite challenging and stressful. And yet, I’m sure there has been a reason for this journey.

I know without a doubt that I have brought healing to so many people and areas because my recipients have acknowledged this, and I know that it has brought me healing and helped me stand in my power more and taught me to set better boundaries. Along with all this learning though, questions still remain.

I am presently staying with a warm, generous couple who love God, love Jesus, believe strongly in their beliefs and state that they don’t judge. And yet…..when I offer to do the healing work I have done since childhood, the work I was led to through my spiritual experiences with Jesus, my work is deemed unacceptable. When I have questioned why it was deemed acceptable that Jesus could do healing work and yet my work is deemed questionable, perhaps even coming from the dark, it is explained that ONLY Jesus could do healing work?! And yet, these people believe in prayer and manifestations they have received through this prayer, which is invoking God and Jesus. But healing work that is invoking Jesus and God’s energy that flows through all of us, is deemed darkness.

I feel so sad when I run into this belief system, as in my understanding, this very belief keeps people feeling separate from God, separate from that innate energy and light that Jesus spoke of so often and demonstrated. I try to not take it personally, and even have tried to point out to them how in-congruent it feels for them to state how much they like me and respect me and then deem my work misguided at the least and channeling darkness at the worst, but they just toss that off as untrue. I see that it is their closed minds and yes, hearts, that is keeping them from receiving all that I could be sharing with them, and I feel sad. As I know there are so many people in the world that live life this way, and it feels so small to me.

To be in the midst of these situations with others projecting their issues onto me, some people rejecting what I have to give or deeming it not enough, has certainly toughened me up in a way and helped me be more detached. It has also conversely helped me know my worth more. Some of the places I have stayed have been like sailing through the smoothest of waters and others have been like walking past walls of sand paper! I do trust though that each circumstance is leading me closer and closer to the deeper work that Jesus told me I was do when I was nine.

I thought I’d be doing it much sooner than this, and I’m sure I’ve been doing it somewhat throughout my life. However, there seems to have been a lot of preparation that was needed first and this journey has been that walk through the fire that was necessary.

I know that this part of the journey is almost over. I am grateful for all of it…and very much looking forward to landing in a soft spot of my own!

Searching For Sugar Man Trailer – YouTube

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Searching For Sugar Man Trailer – YouTube.

I just saw this wonderful documentary last night and it was exactly what I needed to see. It was a new moon yesterday and I was all stirred up; a cocktail of trust, empowerment, fear, anger and frustration. I had taken all of that into the most powerful New Moon ceremony I’ve ever had and commanded forth what I truly desire for myself and humanity.

Then I walked in to view this amazing story of a man who had a gift that wasn’t truly recognized in his home country. He did find some interest from New Zealand and Australia, but mostly he just lived a blue collar financially struggling life as a hard laborer. Then, he found out that he had a huge fan base in South Africa, that he had inspired many and was able finally to step into that recognition and honor that he so deserved, and in a way, he was welcomed home.

I feel that all of us are searching for the place of home, ready to be seen for who we truly are, and honored for that by family and friends if not more people, not out of ego but out of a sense of needing to be seen for the light we bring to the world.

Whether we are artists, musicians, a Mom, a Dad, a sister, a brother, a CEO, a laborer, or whatever, we all have special gifts to share with others. It might be our smile, our patience, our ability to listen, etc.

When I do past life regression with people, when they are viewing a lifetime, I ask them to see what their gifts and talents were in that lifetime. It might be that they were kind, knew how to bake, knew about herbs, loved their family, not just things like playing an instrument, being a leader…..And I remind them of all these gifts before I bring them back into conception into this body and life.

What are the gifts you share with others and bring to the world? Please take a moment to meditate on this and make a list. You can look at this list when you forget how wonderful you are and how much you bring to this planet. Like Sixto Rodriguez discovers, often we are influencing people and touching their lies in ways we can’t even imagine

Thanks for being you! And…go see this film!!!

Love to you, Katelon

PS..my ceremony already grew fruits and today I had an amazing harvest. So can you!

Learning to Love Ourselves, Some Techniques!

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I’ve been thinking a lot lately about love…loving myself, loving others, loving the world, loving what IS right now…on and on.  I’ve been out of a relationship a long time, healing myself so that I could finally have a healthy, supportive relationship, SO that I could finally BE that healthy person in a loving relationship.  I’ve been focused on this healing not just for a romantic partner relationship, but also for a loving family relationship, my work, and my true purpose this lifetime and for the world.

 I’ve come to believe that this is the ONLY true work of our lifetime…learning to love ourselves, relaxing enough to let go of all the “stuff” that we erroneously believe about ourselves that we’ve carried forth from other lifetimes, been programmed with from childhood and society, this belief that we are separate from our divinity.  If there is an original sin, I believe this is the apple we ate…this belief that we are anything other than divine and perfect.

            I went to an NLP meet up yesterday and the guest speaker was Jack Elias, a local hypnotherapist/NLP master and teacher. He did some funny impersonations of how we catch a negative thought, latch onto it, and then use it to beat ourselves up with it.  He pointed out how it is Nazi thinking in how what we do to ourselves is so horrific.

            I have seen this in my son, my family, my friends, my clients, and myself.  It affects our physical health, our relationships, our finances, and how we treat others as well.  That is why I have written so much about healing ourselves and coming to peace within us, how that then creates a positive affect on the world and helps contribute to a more peaceful, loving world.

            I’m sure you have experienced walking into a room where people have been angry or arguing with another. The negative energy is palpable.  Since those emotions create chemical reactions in our body, you can understand how this affects our physical well-being.  Masaru Emoto has demonstrated this with his water experiments, how thoughts change the form of the water crystals.  Since a large percentage of our body is water, these negative thoughts directly affect our body.  And like attracts like, so the more we focus on these negative thoughts and emotions, it seems like more show up to join the dance.

 Here are a few techniques you can use to assist you in more deeply loving yourself and clearing the negative self-talk:

 1.  Yesterday, Jack Elias suggested you could just dance with it.  Low self-esteem?  Dance the low self-esteem dance…. dance free form, or waltz, or whatever, as you announce here you are feeling low self-esteem…. or whatever thought/feeling is up for you.  Pay attention to what else shows up. Old memories that hold that emotion or belief for you, other beliefs that have supported that emotion, …whatever it is, just be inquisitive. This is an opportunity for healing and for releasing these negative emotions in a playful way.

 2.  Louise Hays suggests using affirmations and mirror work.  I feel that affirmations can be powerful, if you pay attention to the “yeah buts” that often show up as you are saying the affirmations.  Your conscious mind will be stating the affirmation “I deeply love myself” and your subconscious might spit up “oh yeah, that’s a crock of #! *+!”, or stuff you heard from your Mom, Dad, school mates….So pay attention to those, thank them for showing up, love them, too, and keep going. For mirror work, you can look into a mirror and state “I love you” “I appreciate you”, you can bow and say “Namaste” the God within me recognizes the God within you.   You can use whatever phrases you need to hear.  Your childhood is over, your past lives are over, (although really, the only time is now…. smile) so NOW is the time to be the loving parent to that wounded you and tell yourself all those things you needed to hear, are still needing to hear, and allow yourself to move to that place of owning self-love.

 3. EFT, emotional freedom technique, is a great tool for shifting the negative self-talk and getting to more self-love.  There are places you tap on acupuncture meridian points that physically free up energy that has been held stuck there due to trauma, stress and holding patterns.  EFT starts with a set up phrase that accepts and loves where you are right now….”Even though I am beating myself up right now, I deeply and completely love and accept myself” and you can add…”And I am willing to be open to learning to love myself now”.  That phrase is done while taking the little finger side of one hand and using a “karate chop” motion on the little finger side of the other hand.  You state it three times. Then you move on to the various acupuncture points on your body and head, tapping and stating what seems to be real right now….”beating myself up, feeling like crap, no one loves me, I don’t even love me”, just allowing yourself to be with what you are feeling and thinking right now and then you can move to more positive statements “well, there is that one friend that loves me, sometimes I love myself, what would it be like if I could really love myself?, I like that feeling, “…on and on, until you feel a shift. Then breathe deeply.  Other thoughts, emotions and beliefs might come up and then you can tap on them.

 4.  David Spangler talked of a wonderful practice of bringing “you” out to sit in front of you.  Then think of something or someone you feel love and appreciation for and fill yourself up with that.  Then you can pour that love and appreciation into that “you” in front of you, until that “you” is filled up and overflowing. Then you can bring that “you” back into your body and feel the difference.  This is a very gentle practice and very powerful.

 5.  You can sit in what is called a whole brain posture, a variation of the “cook’s hook up” energy medicine posture.  You cross your right ankle over your left, sitting or laying down, and then cross your left wrist over your right wrist, turn your hands so they face each other and clasp your hands together.  You can start with a release statement, thinking to yourself whatever negative emotion is running for you at the moment, “I’m now releasing all worry, fear and self-judgment”. Keep saying it to yourself as you breathe and hold this posture. Then when it feels like you are finished, unclasp your hands and uncross your ankles.  Place your fingertips together like you are holding a ball, and breathe.  This brings both hemispheres of the brain together to support this belief and release the negative.  You can then do the exercise again and use a positive statement ” I now deeply appreciate myself just as I am”, same posture, and same two steps. Psych-K and other energy techniques use this hold.

 If you want more information about any of these techniques, there is more information about these people and techniques on the Internet. I have simply been paraphrasing their techniques.  Also, I have several meditations and techniques on my website for free.  If you have any questions or would like some help, I would love to assist you in clearing anything limiting you from truly seeing what a beautiful and blessed being you are and all that you bring to the world. This has been my work for over 30 years and I am trained in and have studied many therapies and techniques. It is an honor to serve you in this way.

 Let’s fill up this world with love, person by person until we have claimed the truth of heaven on earth!

 Katelon T. Jeffereys

Seattle Life Coach

 www.empowerandbalance.com

Photo by Nancy Merryl